“When we focus on consent we set the bar really low for what is in any other context criminal acts of violence. “We should first of all ask women about what they want, their actual desire, not their agreement. The idea of consent was also problematic, when it really just meant “to agree,” and didn’t take into account gendered power dynamics, pressure, desire, and concerns for safety if a refusal was given, Benton-Greig said. As we talk about it becoming ‘common’ people start thinking it's something they ‘should’ do, and they're uncool if they don't.” “The research in this area is suggesting those who do those acts do it because they think it’s what men should do, or what women want.
While the numbers were high, she warned against ‘normalising’ non-typical sex acts. This is a near stranger, and these are the kinds of practices that need existing relationships of trust and care, and that’s the part that's missing.” “In the context of online dating, we are talking about people who might have only met for the first time, or a couple of times. New Zealand has high rates of intimate partner violence. Paulette Benton-Greig, a lecturer and researcher in gendered violence at Auckland University of Technology. 07:00, Two Fags Are Torturing One Poor Straight Man Jessie Colter, bravotube, straight men.
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